Growing up as part of the millennial generation (a.k.a Generation Y) has given me an expectation that I could be more, do more, and have more. These unfulfilled desires and unrealistic expectations, always made me unhappy. As products of the age of technology we use social media to broadcast our lives. Social networks such as Facebook and Instagram are used as much to distort one’s life as they are to communicate with one another; leaving some “friends” to feel inferior or unfulfilled because their lives seem less exciting. This feeling of inadequacy drove me to many poor decisions in an effort to find “happiness.” I became even more self-centered in my attempt to “keep up with the Kardasians.” I changed jobs, homes, schools, friends, and hobbies; in effect my lifestyle. This provided me a sense of happiness, albeit brief, and offered a feeling of worth.

In a 2013 article entitled “Why Generation Y Yuppies are Unhappy,” Tim Urban sums up the reason for this in a perfect equation: “happiness = reality – expectations.” What this means is “when the reality of someone’s life is better than they had expected, they’re happy. When the reality turns out to be worse than the expectations, they’re unhappy.” For me, my irrational standards and delusional self came with a strong sense of entitlement. I created a false self that could now compete with others. However, I eventually learned that this pseudo-me only made me more self-involved and unhappy. I was looking at a future of being insatiable, which would only leave me alone and miserable.

I came to realize that I had wasted so much time trying to be happy when all I needed to do was experience the magnificence of what I already had. Once you can see past all the bullshit in this world, and accept the fact that you don’t need a “special” story, you can begin to detach from it.

9 thoughts on “Peace of Mind

  1. Chelsea Davis says:

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! I really have enjoyed reading through your posts- I’m looking forward to reading more! So many of them are extremely relevant to me, with me being a millennial too. One of the main things I struggle with is def staying in the present, nice post and great writing 🙂

  2. mmatern23 says:

    Great post. I love Tim Urban and his articles on Wait But Why. You did a great job of taking his point and giving it your own perspective!

  3. YES!!! This is so true!!

  4. Yes, contentment, selflessness, and happiness go hand in hand. The earlier in life we realize that, the better off we’ll be. 🙂 Thanks for liking my post called “Help Wanted.” I hope you can find the time to stop by my page called “Reasons to Smile” and contribute your thoughts. Have a great day!

  5. Yes, I have totally done the same thing! I kept thinking that if I just wore what was popular, or acted how people seemed to be “supposed” to act that it would make me fit in a be happier, but it didn’t work. I think it’s more what happens on the inside that changes and helps you grow. Thanks for your thoughts!

  6. I dig what you’re putting down here. Once you are grateful for what you have, which is believe it or not everything you need smiles come in by the truck load and never seem to leave. The one thing i am super grateful for is my breath 🙂

  7. Reblogged this on Tarek Elbakry's Blog and commented:
    High sperit to all !!

  8. muaddib012 says:

    Reblogged this on Your Cup of Tea and commented:
    Happiness comes from within, do not seek it without.- the Buddha

  9. muaddib012 says:

    This is great and much needed for many people these days. Keep up the good work.

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