Growing up as part of the millennial generation (a.k.a Generation Y) has given me an expectation that I could be more, do more, and have more. These unfulfilled desires and unrealistic expectations, always made me unhappy. As products of the age of technology we use social media to broadcast our lives. Social networks such as Facebook and Instagram are used as much to distort one’s life as they are to communicate with one another; leaving some “friends” to feel inferior or unfulfilled because their lives seem less exciting. This feeling of inadequacy drove me to many poor decisions in an effort to find “happiness.” I became even more self-centered in my attempt to “keep up with the Kardasians.” I changed jobs, homes, schools, friends, and hobbies; in effect my lifestyle. This provided me a sense of happiness, albeit brief, and offered a feeling of worth.
In a 2013 article entitled “Why Generation Y Yuppies are Unhappy,” Tim Urban sums up the reason for this in a perfect equation: “happiness = reality – expectations.” What this means is “when the reality of someone’s life is better than they had expected, they’re happy. When the reality turns out to be worse than the expectations, they’re unhappy.” For me, my irrational standards and delusional self came with a strong sense of entitlement. I created a false self that could now compete with others. However, I eventually learned that this pseudo-me only made me more self-involved and unhappy. I was looking at a future of being insatiable, which would only leave me alone and miserable.
I came to realize that I had wasted so much time trying to be happy when all I needed to do was experience the magnificence of what I already had. Once you can see past all the bullshit in this world, and accept the fact that you don’t need a “special” story, you can begin to detach from it.